Critical moments or important moments in our life are those that define either success or failure for us. These moments are categorically stored by our brains in the long-term memory. Hence, these critical moments carry the weightage and importance for our brain. This is the time when our brain needs a boost from an emotion that can handle the pressure of the so-called result and that's when anxiety emotion takes over our brain. Once anxiety takes over our brain, it becomes vary of all possible outcomes from positive to negative. Thinking about the positive outcome, we feel safe and secure; whereas thinking about the negative outcome, we start feeling panicked. Our brain starts preparing us for all sorts of results. However, while doing this it packs our brain with all possibilities for all sorts of results, whereas the result will only be one. This results in excessive load on the brain and may even give anxiety to individuals. Therefore, it is important to keep a tab on our thoughts. Don't let the unnecessary thoughts drift you away from reality. Train your mind to remain calm in the tense situations so that you don't get carried away in the panic state. Yoga and focus techniques might help you in achieving this. Hope this read helps you understand this correlation :)
Wednesday, 23 October 2024
Impatience leads to anxiety!
We all have been impatient at some point in our lives and we keep being impatient when we await something important. Being impatient is a sign of weakness for it questions our own confidence. For example, if we remember that most of us used to be impatient before our exam results. Why were we so impatient when we already knew that we had given our exams and the results would not be very different than what we wrote. Still we kept pestering and burdening ourselves with unwanted thoughts about the result. What causes this impatience? Ever wondered why do we become so vulnerable before critical moments? Let us have a brief understanding on this.
Monday, 23 September 2024
The fascinating world of dreams
How many of you dream regularly? Or I should ask how many of you remember your dreams? I am sure very few! There are very few people who actually dream often and are also able to remember their dreams. However, the reality is that no one can actually remember more than 0.5% of their entire dream. Although, that 0.5% dream seems like their entire dream. Scientifically, we know that mostly dreams occur in REM stage of our sleep. REM stands for Rapid Eye Movement. It is a fact that we dream more vividly during our REM stage of sleep. But rarely, we may also dream during the non-REM sleep stage. However, these dreams are fragmented, short and generally not remembered.
Even the modern scientists are yet unable to prove as to what is the actual source for dreams and what is the purpose of dreaming. But science says that people who dream are also the ones who actually complete their sleep. Technically, you have had a deep sleep if you reach REM sleep stage once or multiple times. The sleep pattern differs according to the ages - the infants need to sleep 12-14 hours in a day, the teenagers need to sleep 8-10 hours a day whereas fully grown adults need to sleep 7-9 hours a day so as to stay healthy. The modern lifestyle has recently impacted the sleep pattern diminishing the sleep hours due to advent of technology and social media. Do you ever realise why the infants need to sleep 12-14 hours? It is because their brain is in the development stage and the neurons are getting connected to each other. This brain development activity happens at a faster rate only during the sleep and especially during the non-REM stage. Similarly, in teenagers and adults it is required for the wear and tear of the brain cells. Even the senior adults (60+ years of age) need adequate sleep to maintain the brain cell functionality. Although, the sleep pattern in older adults is lesser as compared to normal adults. They tend to sleep around 6 hours which is enough for them.
Let us talk about dreams now. So, what do you generally dream of? Is it something adventurous? Is it about beautiful sceneries or is it about nightmares? The dreams are our astral projections into non-physical realms of existence. Basically, it is a journey of our soul into dimensions not identified by the science yet. This is also a major reason for scientists not being able to research and prove the existence of dreams in our sleep. Another interesting feature about dreams is Lucid dreaming. Lucid dreaming is a phenomenon where you are dreaming but are simultaneously aware that you are dreaming. Lucid dreaming also gives you an opportunity to take control over your dreams. Fascinating? Isn't it? Sometimes dreams also give you a Deja vu experience - something that you dream actually becomes a reality in your conscious life. Some people call it a psychic ability to foresee the future. All this sounds like a science fiction already, but it's a reality. We are a complex being composed of physical bodies and an innate life form called as soul that is governing the life in us. Our physical bodies are limited to the physical limitations in the observable world. But the innate life form called as soul has the ability to trave through dimensions and it keeps travelling before our life, after our life and somewhere in between our sleep. There are so many unexplained phenomenon happening in our lives that we do not have any clue of. I would love to know your experiences about dreams in the comments section below.
Sunday, 2 June 2019
Sid's theory of post evolution dominance!
Well, to start with we all are familiar with the Darwin's theory of evolution which states that the strongest and the fittest will survive in this world. It is a mechanism of Darwin's 'Natural Selection' concept. Many could relate to this theory which also explains the extinction of the gigantic Dinosaurs from this planet Earth billions of years ago. This is all that we have read and it's the past of what has already happened. Evolution is a gradual process and it will continue to happen at it's own pace. But did we ever give it a thought as to what is happening to us in the present? It's time that I present you the newest theory in continuation to the Darwin's theory of Evolution - I call it my THEORY OF POST-EVOLUTION DOMINANCE!
"The toughest would survive,
but the smartest would dominate"
This theory explains the logical understanding of the existence of human species and their struggle to dominate over the inter-species on this planet! The struggle is not just among humans and other species, it has narrowed down to a struggle within their own species. Humans have always had a history of evolving into something better! Right from the 'Stone' age to this age of AI - 'Artificial Intelligence', humans have continually shown betterment in their way of living. In the stone age, we developed tools made from stone that helped make our lives easier, then came the age of metals, then the medieval age and then the industrial age, so on and so forth. We are now in the age of 'technology' where we are simultaneously working in different technologies at the same time. We have developed nanobots that could perform an entire operation in a human body, on the other hand we have developed spaceships that have traveled across our solar system. This is not all, the kind of technology we are working on will have an entire new species taking control over this planet, AI or maybe mutants (don't confuse it with the X-men series, although the thought is inspired from it). Well, all of this is just a possibility or a prediction, unless we act upon it and take control over our lives. Somewhere, we seem to have lost control of our lives.
Happiness is no longer meeting your friends and relatives. It is the more likes you get on your Facebook or Instagram profile. We are so much into this social media, that we longer care to go out, see and meet our fellow loved ones. Earlier, the birthday wishes were meant to be visiting their house and meeting them, if not that then calling up and sharing heart-felt birthday wishes. Now, it's just a whatsapp message with a ready-made cake smiley with few emoticons or not even that, maybe just a simple birthday wish over a common whatsapp group.
"The toughest would survive,
but the smartest would dominate"
This theory explains the logical understanding of the existence of human species and their struggle to dominate over the inter-species on this planet! The struggle is not just among humans and other species, it has narrowed down to a struggle within their own species. Humans have always had a history of evolving into something better! Right from the 'Stone' age to this age of AI - 'Artificial Intelligence', humans have continually shown betterment in their way of living. In the stone age, we developed tools made from stone that helped make our lives easier, then came the age of metals, then the medieval age and then the industrial age, so on and so forth. We are now in the age of 'technology' where we are simultaneously working in different technologies at the same time. We have developed nanobots that could perform an entire operation in a human body, on the other hand we have developed spaceships that have traveled across our solar system. This is not all, the kind of technology we are working on will have an entire new species taking control over this planet, AI or maybe mutants (don't confuse it with the X-men series, although the thought is inspired from it). Well, all of this is just a possibility or a prediction, unless we act upon it and take control over our lives. Somewhere, we seem to have lost control of our lives.
Happiness is no longer meeting your friends and relatives. It is the more likes you get on your Facebook or Instagram profile. We are so much into this social media, that we longer care to go out, see and meet our fellow loved ones. Earlier, the birthday wishes were meant to be visiting their house and meeting them, if not that then calling up and sharing heart-felt birthday wishes. Now, it's just a whatsapp message with a ready-made cake smiley with few emoticons or not even that, maybe just a simple birthday wish over a common whatsapp group.
'The toughest would survive, but the smartest would dominate' - This is true in today's work scenario as well. We live in an age where hard work is paid less, and smart efficient work is paid more. Consider a construction laborer who works and slogs hard to earn a minuscule amount of wage to survive his family, and contrasting to this consider a fellow management person who supervises the laborers who tries to manage the cost of laborers to the minimum so as to complete the project with less manpower, thereby reducing the overall cost of the project. Well, many of you could certainly relate it to your own workplace? Right? The work of roughly 3-4 people will be burdened on a single person by the management under the disguise of extracting his/her full potential. Over a period of time, this has set a new trend for 'cost-saving' model. The upper-management or the business owners only see the financial numbers, nobody cares to see the actual suffering an employee has to go through when he is being burdened with the task which ideally requires 3-4 people. Nobody sees the struggle which an employee goes through in order to achieve the results and working more than his stipulated working hours. Only a selective few get to enjoy their work-life balance. Welcome to the age where money matters more over people!
Don't be scared or demotivated with the talks I shared, for it's the sad reality of today's world. But it's only us who can help bring a positive change about this. Do not let this 'Dominating' culture get over your personal life. Your life is completely yours to live and make the most of it. Do not lose your control to other people or technology for that matter. Make optimum use of technology, only to ease up your life and not to replace your life. Take time out for your family and friends. If you truly love them, make them feel loved. Live life like it's going to make up the future generations worth living!
Yours hypothetically,
Sid😎
Wednesday, 1 March 2017
Race against your inabilities!
At times, in life you may come across some experiences wherein you feel you are unable to perform to your potential. From this point, there are 2 ways - one is to accept your inability and other is to overcome the fear of failure. The former choice proves our failure nature, whereas the latter choice helps us to overcome the hurdles and build confidence which will stay with us for lifetime.
Always race against your inabilities because the moment you accept failure is the moment you've let yourself down. Make your self believe that nothing is impossible! Train your mind first, not your body. Your body will ultimately believe in your mind.
Stay charged, stay motivated!
- Sid
Sunday, 5 April 2015
11 weird after-effects when your best-friend goes out-of-town for few days!
We all have friends with whom we share most of the stuffs.. and a few special friends with whom you share the secrets.. but there's a friend with whom you're just completely #YOU!! That's our BF #BestFriend ^_^ We call up or meet up our BF's anytime just to update them about us.. or sometimes just because we feel so (well, is there any reason for catching up for BFs?) We're at our natural best when we are around them. But what when suddenly one of us has to go out-of-town for a mini-vacation? or a trip? or any plan of which you're not a part :P
1. You bid a #goodbye to them with a happy face but a worried heart
Goodbyes were never so easy. Especially when you know the next few days will be without them. Till the point of saying goodbye - you're all cool and stuff, but as soon as the station/airport arrives and you know it's time to say goodbye.. your coolness disappears and you're like.. oh-so-helpless! |
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2. You check , recheck & cross-check their travel-plans
Right from train/plane timings to the seat comfort and co-passengers - you inquire them about almost everything!! Then the typical questions about food, sleep, mobile battery/charger.. you act like their parents, LOL :D
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3. Every time your phone rings, you assume it to be their call!!
Since the time your BF is out, it happens that every single time your phone rings.. you just rush to the phone assuming it to be your BF's call.. and if it's not their call - it's so damn disappointing!! :P
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4. Your text messages / whatsapp messages to them suddenly become longer
Usually you used to send short one-liners which suddenly turn out to be long paragraphs that includes hi/how r u/how's it there? kinda' stuff.. sometimes too cheesy.. plus a few complaints as to why didn't you call/msg after reaching? why didn't you respond to my previous (longer) messages? LOL :)) In short, you literally become a complaint-box!!!! :P
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5. Empty Weekends?!!
Like so obvious?! Be it a blockbuster weekend movie or a hangout to a nearby mall - If you go out with your BF every other weekend, then you don't really have any other plans except waiting for your BF to return. Making up weekend plans with others may sound interesting, but you're least bothered about it.
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6. You relate every conversation with other friends to your BF! - "IF IT WAS HER/HIM..."
Be it any conversation you're having with your friends, you always come up with the name of your BF in that conversation! You try and relate every situation to having your BF around.. like.. "IF IT WAS HER, SHE WOULD HAVE DEFINITELY SAID THIS".. or "IF IT WAS HER, SHE WOULD HAVE BEATEN THE HELL OUT OF ME" etc etc. You mistakenly call your friend by the name of your BF! You talk so damn much about your BF that the friend you're with ultimately calls it a day!
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7. You expect to know everything that's happening at your BF's end
Even when you know that your BF's stuck with a new place - new people - new environment.. and still struggling to get hold of everything.. you're impatient to know each and everything that your BF is going through.. and with that those silly meaningless questions - did you have your dinner? Is it too cold/hot there? are you enjoying? (LOL, because you're not enjoying too much without them) :D
You actually turn out to be a chatter-box full of questions and self-explanatory answers :P
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8. You keep looking at the pictures/selfies with them & smile
No matter how many times you've clicked pictures with your BF in that same selfie-pose.. you certainly like to see it over and over again! Looking at them makes us realize how lucky we are to have them in our life- and then comes that classic million dollar smile on our face thinking about them ^_^
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9. A phone-call from them changes your mood from dull to super-excited!
A surprise phone-call from them changes your dull mood to a super-happy face :D
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10. You note down stuffs you would like to discuss with your BF once they're back!
Be it a bad day at your workplace or be it an awesome party-time you've had.. you note it down so that you can share it with your BF until the time they're back! You do this because you don't want your BF to get distracted by your routine problems, but certainly you want them to be discussed only with your BF when they're back!!
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11. You miss the "BEING SILLY" part of you!!!
You start acting serious about everything and there's one very integral part of you that's missing - "Silliness" - which you're comfortable only being with your BF!! You miss your BF in every smallest of aspect.. be it talking shit about people or be it cracking jokes which make no sense.. you miss the person who makes you feel silly and most importantly makes you feel #you
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Miss you my #BF - you're the only star that shines the brightest in the dark sky! ^_^
Sunday, 22 March 2015
Impatient wait!
Wait - who does like to wait? Practically, none. We all want to get things done as soon as possible. Sometimes, the wait is worth it and sometimes it's not. There are a thousand and one instances where one has waited only to get disappointed at the end of it. So why do we wait for things to happen when we know that things will happen at their own pace. Why are we so impatient?
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The most common example of the 'wait' in our day-to-day life is waiting for the call. We all expect calls from the most important persons in our lives. For some, it's parents.. for some it's their friends.. for some it's their boss.. for some it's their special ones.. for some it's just a surprise call!! We expect calls from them because we love those people for some reason or another. We have stored so many things within us that we would want to share with them - and to share all these stuffs - the people are just a phone call away! Thanks to the developing technology of mobile phones and boosting network!! We're happy when we get to share things instantly and without any hustles. We're more than happy when the phone rings and we know that it's the person with whom we wanna' speak. But do you remember the time when you had to share something important and the person with whom you're trying to connect isn't reachable? Or when we try to connect the person and the person in not picking up our call? That point of time is so impatient for us. We feel like killing the time and we curse the person for not answering our call. Is this anger valid? Obviously, yes - for any human on this planet who has bonded attachments with love. If there's no love, there's no expectation and there'll never be wait. The 'wait' is just a testing time in one's life to make him/her realize what and how much the person means for him/her. The anger berated by us during this time is just the outcome of the loss of patience and hope. It's also during this small period of 'anger' that we say things which we wished we shouldn't have said at all. What we all fail to realize is - putting ourselves into the shoes of person on the other end. Obviously, if that person cares equally for you, he/she will certainly get back to you as soon as possible - all you need to give them is "TIME". Time has always had the power to settle things down. Nobody has raced against the time and those who did have never won.
Firstly, we need to build patience within ourselves. Secondly, we need to blindly trust the person whom we care for. And last, but not the least - give time. Always give sufficient time for things to get clear and settled down. Just like the rain washes away the dust and dirt in the atmosphere, the time will wash away our worries and anxiety within us. Hope these three keys equip you to unravel the answers to impatient journey of the wait!
The most common example of the 'wait' in our day-to-day life is waiting for the call. We all expect calls from the most important persons in our lives. For some, it's parents.. for some it's their friends.. for some it's their boss.. for some it's their special ones.. for some it's just a surprise call!! We expect calls from them because we love those people for some reason or another. We have stored so many things within us that we would want to share with them - and to share all these stuffs - the people are just a phone call away! Thanks to the developing technology of mobile phones and boosting network!! We're happy when we get to share things instantly and without any hustles. We're more than happy when the phone rings and we know that it's the person with whom we wanna' speak. But do you remember the time when you had to share something important and the person with whom you're trying to connect isn't reachable? Or when we try to connect the person and the person in not picking up our call? That point of time is so impatient for us. We feel like killing the time and we curse the person for not answering our call. Is this anger valid? Obviously, yes - for any human on this planet who has bonded attachments with love. If there's no love, there's no expectation and there'll never be wait. The 'wait' is just a testing time in one's life to make him/her realize what and how much the person means for him/her. The anger berated by us during this time is just the outcome of the loss of patience and hope. It's also during this small period of 'anger' that we say things which we wished we shouldn't have said at all. What we all fail to realize is - putting ourselves into the shoes of person on the other end. Obviously, if that person cares equally for you, he/she will certainly get back to you as soon as possible - all you need to give them is "TIME". Time has always had the power to settle things down. Nobody has raced against the time and those who did have never won.
Firstly, we need to build patience within ourselves. Secondly, we need to blindly trust the person whom we care for. And last, but not the least - give time. Always give sufficient time for things to get clear and settled down. Just like the rain washes away the dust and dirt in the atmosphere, the time will wash away our worries and anxiety within us. Hope these three keys equip you to unravel the answers to impatient journey of the wait!
Is true love only achieved by sacrifice?
Loving someone is a wonderful moment in one's life. And getting loved back is more wonderful. But with the love growing between two persons, there comes a point in life when both the partners think they know everything about each other. This is the point of saturation in a relationship. Then starts all the fights, quarrels and complaints. And then after, a bit of fighting, blaming each other and taking lessons from this, along with time, both come closer again. This cycle continues. But where is the love lost when we fight? when we quarrel? when we use fowl words? when we don't care about feelings? The short span of time when you have lost it, you have said things which you did not wish to say. This also sometimes, results in complete break up of the relation.
In contrast, there is this love, where both the partners know they are meant for each other, they love each other, they care for each other. But due to some reasons, they can't be together. They know they can't handle this separation. But still, over time, one of the partners, thinks maturely and comes up with a decision to sacrifice the love for the good. Both of them part their ways. But, they do this not because they are afraid, they do this because they want their love to stay pure and true throughout their lives and forever. They may break up and part away for the entire world, but they are close to each other through their hearts and souls. They were meant to be a single soul! So, is this true love only achieved by sacrifice?
What are your views about love?
Saturday, 21 March 2015
Innocence - a child's play!!!
I'm a guy who loves photography. I love clicking pictures of almost everything that gets my attention. Sometimes, if I cannot click the picture at the right time, I capture it in my memories. I feel photos are memorable if they can help you recollect the precious moments you've shared in that period. #Expressions - Yes, that's what create a beautiful picture. And who better than cute little children are good at giving expressions. The innocence they display is so heart-melting.
Talking about this, I remember the time when I was trying to click a cute little girl child at the airport. That girl was hardly 3-4 year old, golden hair - round face - honey-colored eyes - and was wearing a full sleeve hooded jacket, which made her look completely adorable. She was with her mother waiting for their flight I suppose. The way she ate her breakfast sandwich made me smile - she was biting the bun and the mayo/sauce was coming out from the other end and dripping on her jacket. She was looking at me while happily eating the sandwich and smiling back, unaware of the fact that she had designed the jacket with the mayo/sauce. Soon, her mom noticed it and made her realize what she had done. Her mom wiped off the sauce with the tissue whatever she could. Seeing this, that innocent girl also started wiping her dress, but with saucy hands. I could now hardly control my smile and laughter. I could not understand their language - maybe they were speaking Russian or German or whatever. But I could relate to each and every action of theirs.
After a few minutes, she was done eating and her mother was busy reading a magazine. Suddenly, this girl got up from the seat and went running to the glass barricade from where she saw an airplane about to land. She was so excited and shouted "Plane....." (Lol, all I could understand was "Plane" - other things were not known to me as the language was completely alien for me). Both her hands on the glass pane, eyes and mouth wide open - continuously jumping up and down. I knew from her expressions that she is seeing the airplane for the first time. One look at the plane and then at her mom, then again the plane. She kept doing this again and again, I guess she was wanting her mother to enjoy and relish the excitement of seeing the airplane like she did. Her mother simply smiled and waved back at her. She kept on looking at the plane until it completely halted after landing on the runway. All this while, when I was observing this girl, I had forgotten to click her photograph. As I was about to remove my camera, there was an announcement for the airplane and that cute girl had to leave along with her mom. Although I couldn't click her picture, I had captured her innocent joy of seeing an airplane for the first time with my eyes.
Another incident was when I was travelling in China. Again here, a 3-4 year old girl was with her grandmother, holding hands together at a park. There were many pigeons on the floor. This girl was happy and excited to see the pigeons that she decided to catch them. She untied herself from the hands of her grandmother and ran after the pigeons. The pigeons used to fly away as the girl approached - this happened each and every time - still the girl had no loss of motivation - she kept on running everywhere. For me, this was pure #innocence - the playful nature of children which makes the scene look so cute. This time I wasn't late and I got my camera on her and could get this beautiful click to which you can relate exactly what I'm saying. (image below)
These are just 2 of the innumerable incidents I've encountered. In both the incidents, you can clearly observe that first incident - I had to describe each and every detail to make the scene clear enough for you to understand.. whereas in the second incident - It was easy for me to just write a few lines as the picture is more than enough to describe my story. So, now you know, how easily a simple picture can convey a thousand emotions without the need of a single word.
What I actually wanted to convey from these incidents is that #innocence is present in each and every one of us right from the time of our birth. Some of us, lose it very soon in the race of growing older. While some, carry it with them wherever they go. Both kind of persons may become successful in their respectful lives, but there will always a beautiful difference in the way these persons affect the lives of others around them. The person carrying the innocence with them will always connect with the souls of people around, while the other would fail to realize that there's a soul. I would say that each one of us has the innocence - some try and hide it while some cannot hide it even if they try to. When we all are a child, there's no barrier of societal norms and no restrictions over our thoughts. We think and speak whatever comes to our mind - without the fear of what people or society would feel. However, as we grow older, the education, the learning and our experiences make us hide the #innocence which we all have within us. I feel this innocence needs to come out often so that we learn to live our lives happily. Innocence is like pure water - it tastes the best only when it's pure.
- Your's innocently Sid ^_^
Talking about this, I remember the time when I was trying to click a cute little girl child at the airport. That girl was hardly 3-4 year old, golden hair - round face - honey-colored eyes - and was wearing a full sleeve hooded jacket, which made her look completely adorable. She was with her mother waiting for their flight I suppose. The way she ate her breakfast sandwich made me smile - she was biting the bun and the mayo/sauce was coming out from the other end and dripping on her jacket. She was looking at me while happily eating the sandwich and smiling back, unaware of the fact that she had designed the jacket with the mayo/sauce. Soon, her mom noticed it and made her realize what she had done. Her mom wiped off the sauce with the tissue whatever she could. Seeing this, that innocent girl also started wiping her dress, but with saucy hands. I could now hardly control my smile and laughter. I could not understand their language - maybe they were speaking Russian or German or whatever. But I could relate to each and every action of theirs.
After a few minutes, she was done eating and her mother was busy reading a magazine. Suddenly, this girl got up from the seat and went running to the glass barricade from where she saw an airplane about to land. She was so excited and shouted "Plane....." (Lol, all I could understand was "Plane" - other things were not known to me as the language was completely alien for me). Both her hands on the glass pane, eyes and mouth wide open - continuously jumping up and down. I knew from her expressions that she is seeing the airplane for the first time. One look at the plane and then at her mom, then again the plane. She kept doing this again and again, I guess she was wanting her mother to enjoy and relish the excitement of seeing the airplane like she did. Her mother simply smiled and waved back at her. She kept on looking at the plane until it completely halted after landing on the runway. All this while, when I was observing this girl, I had forgotten to click her photograph. As I was about to remove my camera, there was an announcement for the airplane and that cute girl had to leave along with her mom. Although I couldn't click her picture, I had captured her innocent joy of seeing an airplane for the first time with my eyes.
Another incident was when I was travelling in China. Again here, a 3-4 year old girl was with her grandmother, holding hands together at a park. There were many pigeons on the floor. This girl was happy and excited to see the pigeons that she decided to catch them. She untied herself from the hands of her grandmother and ran after the pigeons. The pigeons used to fly away as the girl approached - this happened each and every time - still the girl had no loss of motivation - she kept on running everywhere. For me, this was pure #innocence - the playful nature of children which makes the scene look so cute. This time I wasn't late and I got my camera on her and could get this beautiful click to which you can relate exactly what I'm saying. (image below)
These are just 2 of the innumerable incidents I've encountered. In both the incidents, you can clearly observe that first incident - I had to describe each and every detail to make the scene clear enough for you to understand.. whereas in the second incident - It was easy for me to just write a few lines as the picture is more than enough to describe my story. So, now you know, how easily a simple picture can convey a thousand emotions without the need of a single word.
What I actually wanted to convey from these incidents is that #innocence is present in each and every one of us right from the time of our birth. Some of us, lose it very soon in the race of growing older. While some, carry it with them wherever they go. Both kind of persons may become successful in their respectful lives, but there will always a beautiful difference in the way these persons affect the lives of others around them. The person carrying the innocence with them will always connect with the souls of people around, while the other would fail to realize that there's a soul. I would say that each one of us has the innocence - some try and hide it while some cannot hide it even if they try to. When we all are a child, there's no barrier of societal norms and no restrictions over our thoughts. We think and speak whatever comes to our mind - without the fear of what people or society would feel. However, as we grow older, the education, the learning and our experiences make us hide the #innocence which we all have within us. I feel this innocence needs to come out often so that we learn to live our lives happily. Innocence is like pure water - it tastes the best only when it's pure.
- Your's innocently Sid ^_^
Monday, 16 March 2015
The earphones of a weird girl - an autobiography!!!!
"Awwhh,, ahh.. ummhh.. it badly hurts!!".. This was all I could barely do trying to unravel myself tangled together lying in the puddle of muddy water.. trying to listen to my own voice which was now becoming almost extinct..
But before I could die off completely, I just wanted to let my story be told so that this world remembers my happy times I have spent with the most amazingly weird person - who was my life - at all times - be it sad or happy - for whom I have been the ultimate savior!!! That amazing person in my life was Anne (name changed).
This is how it all began..
I was manufactured at a branded factory far from the city, into the woods. Utmost care and precision was taken so that I can have the perfect shape and give out that incredibly beautiful voice. My body was coated white, with two beautiful phones at one end coated with rubber and the other end tapering stainless steel at the tip of the bottom. I was made such that I could fit into any 3.5 mm jack - be it a mobile / speaker / laptop / television / computer etc. Wasn't the most expensive one, but could make any person happy with the quality of sound I pitched. Some of my friends were coated black, some violet, some yellow and some green. Most of them were black, then a few white ones like me. And the rest others like the violet, yellow, green, pink and blue ones were almost scarce. We all were put up hanging on the wall of a very famous music accessories store.
One fine day, a girl walked in the store with short, shoulder-length hair, tied back with a cute hairband, with eyes that could sparkle excitement and smile that could light up the whole town!! This girl was none other than Anne - she was with her dad. They were looking at all my friends deciding which one to own. I could actually remember how Anne chose me - she was glancing through my friends like the one in red, one in yellow and one is green.. and then as she glanced over me.. she suddenly stopped!! Her eyes widened with happiness as if she had found what she was looking for. Without even thinking for a second, she took me out of the wall hanging and into her dad's hands saying, "Dad, this is what I want. Let's play it and see." She then connected the stainless steel end of me into her mobile phone and played her favorite Beethoven's (track changed). I could feel her happiness as she closed her eyes listening to her favorite track which I played. As she opened her eyes, she was sure that she would buy nothing but me. Her dad smiled at her innocence and got me for her. This is how she owned me.
[Image rights: Image is sourced from a website runwithjess(dot)com]
Anne was very happy with me. She used to always stuff me inside her bag. She used to put me up to her ears each and everyday and I used to play the most melodious voice of her favorite songs into her ears. Mostly, every morning while going to college and then while returning back. Months passed, and my shape started distorting - but I still played the same melodious voice for Anne. Sometimes I also used to answer her calls. Why I feel I know her is because I have been through her good times and her bad times - she has talked into me and she has listened to me - sometimes I have been a part of her anger as well. The happy times when Anne used to dance putting me into her ears, listening to her peppy music and pouring her heart out. The sad times when she used to listen to those old romantic classics crying her heart out - once her teardrops also fell onto my speaker (eww! It was salty :P but I could sense how hurt she was). I was a part of all her moods and I knew her the way no one else could know.
Now, the reason why I call her #weird girl is because - no matter how much she loved me, she used to forget me.. so many times I was returned to her by her friends as I was either misplaced or lost.. but I don't complain this about her.. because it was her nature.. she gets flown with things.. but there was one incident when Anne forgot me under the bench and then ran back to the class after college just to take me back away with her.. More weird things about her was that she used to put my speaker in her mouth sometimes, knowingly or unknowingly.. she used to stuff me in her bag in that small space where I could fit my flexible body.. but this had made my white body a little off-white and the white coating had started to tear off.. but I was happy because Anne was still happy to have me with her no matter my shape or look.
A year and half had passed by and Anne had bought me into another city where she got a new job. She was happy with her life and still enjoyed keeping me with her all the time. There was not a single point of time when she made me feel useless. This is why I loved her a lot! Everything was same, Anne was the same.. and same were her habits.. only the city had changed.. Anne getting new assignments each day had to travel a lot.. and along with her, obviously I also had to. One such day, Anne had got a lot of work to do and she's a kind of girl who gets completely engrossed in her work leaving aside all other things. That evening she was so busy in her meeting that after the phone call, she kept me on the table of the restaurant she was sitting at. And then soon she got another call, I could see from her face that she had a huge amount of task to do for that day. Talking over the phone, she went by the table leaving me aside lying there. As she went by the table, I wish I could shout out, "Hey Anne, you forgot something!" :( I was deeply saddened seeing you leave in front of my eyes, but all I could is just watch you go. Soon, another customer came on the table - some greedy guy who took me in his hands - looked at me - twisted me around his fingers almost until I broke myself. Seeing the half broken end of my body, the guy threw me outside the restaurant in a muddy puddle of water - where 2-3 bikes ran over me.. And I knew it was time that I could never again play those melodious voices!! Somewhere down in my mind, I knew Anne must have visited the restaurant again to search for me, but it was already late and the fate had me in it. I'm not at all sad by the fact that I'm going to die this way, because I'm more happy to have spent most of my life with the amazingly weird Anne ^_^
For Anne, I was a small part of her musical life.. but for me, Anne was my whole life!!!
- Based on a 'Not-so-true' story with very little facts ;)
But before I could die off completely, I just wanted to let my story be told so that this world remembers my happy times I have spent with the most amazingly weird person - who was my life - at all times - be it sad or happy - for whom I have been the ultimate savior!!! That amazing person in my life was Anne (name changed).
This is how it all began..
I was manufactured at a branded factory far from the city, into the woods. Utmost care and precision was taken so that I can have the perfect shape and give out that incredibly beautiful voice. My body was coated white, with two beautiful phones at one end coated with rubber and the other end tapering stainless steel at the tip of the bottom. I was made such that I could fit into any 3.5 mm jack - be it a mobile / speaker / laptop / television / computer etc. Wasn't the most expensive one, but could make any person happy with the quality of sound I pitched. Some of my friends were coated black, some violet, some yellow and some green. Most of them were black, then a few white ones like me. And the rest others like the violet, yellow, green, pink and blue ones were almost scarce. We all were put up hanging on the wall of a very famous music accessories store.
One fine day, a girl walked in the store with short, shoulder-length hair, tied back with a cute hairband, with eyes that could sparkle excitement and smile that could light up the whole town!! This girl was none other than Anne - she was with her dad. They were looking at all my friends deciding which one to own. I could actually remember how Anne chose me - she was glancing through my friends like the one in red, one in yellow and one is green.. and then as she glanced over me.. she suddenly stopped!! Her eyes widened with happiness as if she had found what she was looking for. Without even thinking for a second, she took me out of the wall hanging and into her dad's hands saying, "Dad, this is what I want. Let's play it and see." She then connected the stainless steel end of me into her mobile phone and played her favorite Beethoven's (track changed). I could feel her happiness as she closed her eyes listening to her favorite track which I played. As she opened her eyes, she was sure that she would buy nothing but me. Her dad smiled at her innocence and got me for her. This is how she owned me.
Anne was very happy with me. She used to always stuff me inside her bag. She used to put me up to her ears each and everyday and I used to play the most melodious voice of her favorite songs into her ears. Mostly, every morning while going to college and then while returning back. Months passed, and my shape started distorting - but I still played the same melodious voice for Anne. Sometimes I also used to answer her calls. Why I feel I know her is because I have been through her good times and her bad times - she has talked into me and she has listened to me - sometimes I have been a part of her anger as well. The happy times when Anne used to dance putting me into her ears, listening to her peppy music and pouring her heart out. The sad times when she used to listen to those old romantic classics crying her heart out - once her teardrops also fell onto my speaker (eww! It was salty :P but I could sense how hurt she was). I was a part of all her moods and I knew her the way no one else could know.
Now, the reason why I call her #weird girl is because - no matter how much she loved me, she used to forget me.. so many times I was returned to her by her friends as I was either misplaced or lost.. but I don't complain this about her.. because it was her nature.. she gets flown with things.. but there was one incident when Anne forgot me under the bench and then ran back to the class after college just to take me back away with her.. More weird things about her was that she used to put my speaker in her mouth sometimes, knowingly or unknowingly.. she used to stuff me in her bag in that small space where I could fit my flexible body.. but this had made my white body a little off-white and the white coating had started to tear off.. but I was happy because Anne was still happy to have me with her no matter my shape or look.
A year and half had passed by and Anne had bought me into another city where she got a new job. She was happy with her life and still enjoyed keeping me with her all the time. There was not a single point of time when she made me feel useless. This is why I loved her a lot! Everything was same, Anne was the same.. and same were her habits.. only the city had changed.. Anne getting new assignments each day had to travel a lot.. and along with her, obviously I also had to. One such day, Anne had got a lot of work to do and she's a kind of girl who gets completely engrossed in her work leaving aside all other things. That evening she was so busy in her meeting that after the phone call, she kept me on the table of the restaurant she was sitting at. And then soon she got another call, I could see from her face that she had a huge amount of task to do for that day. Talking over the phone, she went by the table leaving me aside lying there. As she went by the table, I wish I could shout out, "Hey Anne, you forgot something!" :( I was deeply saddened seeing you leave in front of my eyes, but all I could is just watch you go. Soon, another customer came on the table - some greedy guy who took me in his hands - looked at me - twisted me around his fingers almost until I broke myself. Seeing the half broken end of my body, the guy threw me outside the restaurant in a muddy puddle of water - where 2-3 bikes ran over me.. And I knew it was time that I could never again play those melodious voices!! Somewhere down in my mind, I knew Anne must have visited the restaurant again to search for me, but it was already late and the fate had me in it. I'm not at all sad by the fact that I'm going to die this way, because I'm more happy to have spent most of my life with the amazingly weird Anne ^_^
For Anne, I was a small part of her musical life.. but for me, Anne was my whole life!!!
- Based on a 'Not-so-true' story with very little facts ;)
Sunday, 8 June 2014
Acceptance!
How many times in our life have we faced problems? Almost everyday, sometimes a big problem and sometimes a very small problem. Generally, we tend to overcome our small problems very easily. And the big problems stay in our lives for a longer time? Isn't it? Ever wondered why?
The answer lies in our perception. How we look at the problem? Only then we categorize it as a small or a major problem. But what after it? Once we think we are facing a big problem - what do we do? What's the first reaction? Try to run away from it? Yeah, that's what most people would do. And the more you run away from it, you see that the problem has never left you - it has been chasing you at the same speed you were trying to run away from it. But very few people learn to accept the problem. Accepting the problem - big or small is the first step towards solving that problem. Usually smaller problems are addressed because we do accept it, because we have a confidence that we can easily overcome it. Bigger problems are not easily accepted because we fear the consequences. The fear of unknown makes us difficult to accept things. Nothing in this world remains a problem. For every problem created, there are one or many ways to overcome it. It is our thinking which makes the solution limited to our thoughts. We never try to extend our thinking beyond the problem. Focusing on problems makes you an expert in problem analysis. it may or may not ever give you solutions. To come up with solutions, you need to get out of your thinking shell. Extend your thinking beyond the boundaries undiscovered. Only then you will be able to come up with extremely unbelievable, yet simple logical solutions. And then you would realize that the solutions were always present around you. It was you, that failed to notice it. The world around us has anything and everything that we need to live our life. Only effort e require to do is - discover!
I hope we all learn, and always keep learning from our experiences. But when we share our experiences with others, it adds to their learning as well. Acceptance is term which sounds so simple, but actually is so powerful. If it is a mistake, you accept. A problem, you accept. Acceptance is the first step towards creating and accomplishing something wonderful!
The answer lies in our perception. How we look at the problem? Only then we categorize it as a small or a major problem. But what after it? Once we think we are facing a big problem - what do we do? What's the first reaction? Try to run away from it? Yeah, that's what most people would do. And the more you run away from it, you see that the problem has never left you - it has been chasing you at the same speed you were trying to run away from it. But very few people learn to accept the problem. Accepting the problem - big or small is the first step towards solving that problem. Usually smaller problems are addressed because we do accept it, because we have a confidence that we can easily overcome it. Bigger problems are not easily accepted because we fear the consequences. The fear of unknown makes us difficult to accept things. Nothing in this world remains a problem. For every problem created, there are one or many ways to overcome it. It is our thinking which makes the solution limited to our thoughts. We never try to extend our thinking beyond the problem. Focusing on problems makes you an expert in problem analysis. it may or may not ever give you solutions. To come up with solutions, you need to get out of your thinking shell. Extend your thinking beyond the boundaries undiscovered. Only then you will be able to come up with extremely unbelievable, yet simple logical solutions. And then you would realize that the solutions were always present around you. It was you, that failed to notice it. The world around us has anything and everything that we need to live our life. Only effort e require to do is - discover!
I hope we all learn, and always keep learning from our experiences. But when we share our experiences with others, it adds to their learning as well. Acceptance is term which sounds so simple, but actually is so powerful. If it is a mistake, you accept. A problem, you accept. Acceptance is the first step towards creating and accomplishing something wonderful!
Monday, 20 May 2013
Thoughts affect, and behavior matters!
THOUGHTS INVOKE ACTIONS!
An age-old saying, as rightly said by many of the great men who have left a strong impression of their personality on us. Thoughts, as they are produced in our minds; knowingly or unknowingly penetrate into our regular habits. The more we think about something, the more we are attracted towards it. The good we believe in and practice, helps us to achieve the goodness. But that's not all, the problem arises when we cannot control the negatives into our mind and then starts the destruction!
Our behavior, is affected by our thoughts in a number of ways. Most of the times, we tend to act in a certain direction only after analyzing the thoughts. These thoughts originate in our conscious self, and slowly but gradually enter into our subconscious without our notice. Consider an example, you were taught to never tell lies in your childhood. But, as you grew up and based on the situations you may have faced, you may have had to lie someone about something. This changed your perception of telling a lie. You made your own conception that sometimes, telling a lie is inevitable. Slowly, but gradually you changed your attitude and behavior towards this concept. This is how a simple thing enters into your sub-conscious system. You know it, but you are unaware about it.
Therefore, it is very important to keep a check on what you think, how you think and what made you think. However to be practical, it becomes really difficult to keep a check on these. We all are engrossed in a number of things and with the advent of technology our lives have become a little too complicated to be analyzed. You can begin with a simple exercise wherein you give yourself time and patiently go through your thoughts, without reasoning them. If you reason your thoughts, you will over-stress yourself. Let the thoughts come in, just watch them and let them fly away. You will slowly control your life in a better way. Take better decisions. Behave in a good manner to people. De-stress yourself. And a number of positive things left to be discovered. This does not take much of your time, but instead gives you peaceful time of your own.
I insist that each one of us requires to give oneself the time, he/she deserves. This will not only help the one who practices it, but it will also help others around that person. It won't be long enough, if the dynamic world sees a positive change in it's outlook by invoking the better of mankind just by revolutionizing the thoughts!
An age-old saying, as rightly said by many of the great men who have left a strong impression of their personality on us. Thoughts, as they are produced in our minds; knowingly or unknowingly penetrate into our regular habits. The more we think about something, the more we are attracted towards it. The good we believe in and practice, helps us to achieve the goodness. But that's not all, the problem arises when we cannot control the negatives into our mind and then starts the destruction!
Our behavior, is affected by our thoughts in a number of ways. Most of the times, we tend to act in a certain direction only after analyzing the thoughts. These thoughts originate in our conscious self, and slowly but gradually enter into our subconscious without our notice. Consider an example, you were taught to never tell lies in your childhood. But, as you grew up and based on the situations you may have faced, you may have had to lie someone about something. This changed your perception of telling a lie. You made your own conception that sometimes, telling a lie is inevitable. Slowly, but gradually you changed your attitude and behavior towards this concept. This is how a simple thing enters into your sub-conscious system. You know it, but you are unaware about it.
Therefore, it is very important to keep a check on what you think, how you think and what made you think. However to be practical, it becomes really difficult to keep a check on these. We all are engrossed in a number of things and with the advent of technology our lives have become a little too complicated to be analyzed. You can begin with a simple exercise wherein you give yourself time and patiently go through your thoughts, without reasoning them. If you reason your thoughts, you will over-stress yourself. Let the thoughts come in, just watch them and let them fly away. You will slowly control your life in a better way. Take better decisions. Behave in a good manner to people. De-stress yourself. And a number of positive things left to be discovered. This does not take much of your time, but instead gives you peaceful time of your own.
I insist that each one of us requires to give oneself the time, he/she deserves. This will not only help the one who practices it, but it will also help others around that person. It won't be long enough, if the dynamic world sees a positive change in it's outlook by invoking the better of mankind just by revolutionizing the thoughts!
Wednesday, 27 March 2013
The boy and the lake!
The story is about a beautiful relationship between the lake and the boy.
In a village, far off from the urban chores, there lived a little boy whose house was near by a beautiful lake. The beauty of the lake was glorified with amazing greenery around with trees surrounding the boundary of this lake. A variety of birds visited this lake for it's natural offering. The afternoon was much brighter as the lake reflected the rays from the sun and brightened up this small village. While, at the night, the sight became a marvelous wonder with the lake reflecting the white moonlight and giving out coolness around. The boy felt very happy to be in and around the lake. He spent a lot of time around the lake. When he was happy he used to visit the lake and spend some quality time looking at the beauty of the lake.
Not only happiness, but whenever the boy was sad over something, he used to visit the lake and throw stones into it. One after the other, again and again, repeatedly. He used to throw the stones until he felt better. In a way, he used to remove all his anger and frustration onto the lake.
Along the lake side, there was a tree. And on the tree, was an old leaf, very dry and about to get withered. The leaf had watched the boy throw stones angrily into the river. The leaf was angry at the boy for doing this, but it wanted to know how the lake felt about all this. The leaf had many questions to ask the lake but it was afraid to ask as it thought that such a mighty lake must not even know who this single old leaf be. But with some courage, the leaf asked the lake, "Oh mighty lake! I am sorry to bother you. I am an old dry leaf about to get withered. I have seen you since my birth but I don't know whether you know me?" The lake heard the leaf and replied with a smile, "Oh my shade-giver, how can I not know you? You have always been over me and protected me from the Sun. You are one of the oldest leaf I have known." Hearing this reply, the leaf was surprised as to how the mighty lake praised such a dwarf leaf for protecting it from the Sun. Even though the leaf was only small enough to provide an inch of cover to the lake, the lake remembered it. The leaf said, "That's so kind and humble of you mighty lake. I am really happy that I need no introduction to you. But I have always had this question in my mind which I wanted to ask you before I fall down." The lake allowed the leaf to ask any question freely. The leaf asked, "Oh mighty lake! You are the one who provides life to us, to the birds and even to the boy who visits you daily. But I have seen the boy throw stones angrily at you every time he is sad or angry. This is not fair! You give away your goodness and the boy throws anger on you. How do you even suffer such an insult? Why aren't you angry at the boy?
The lake again smiled at the leaf and replied, "Oh dear leaf, I do not get angry at the boy because the boy has also spent the good times with me. He used to share the joy with me. How can I not share his sorrow then? When he throws the stones at me, I gulp them down to my bottom. Till now, I have gulped many of such stones within me. The stones which the boy throws at me are not mere stones, they are made up of his anger and he throws away his anger at me. Even the almighty lord has given me the power to absorb any huge thing thrown at me; and these are just small stones of his anger. These stones of anger which I have gulped till now, have helped me raise my water-levels to which I am present now. Not only this, the little boy's family has really worked hard to keep me clean throughout their lifetime. I owe my beauty to them. All the animals and birds visit me only because I am this beautiful and provide pure water to them. But I may like to tell you that I do not gulp down everything that is thrown onto me. The leaves and the flowers which fall down the trees keep floating over me and I do not try to sink them. I am thankful to them as they multiply my beauty. How can I complain about those who have been with me and helped me through my life? I am grateful to all of you."
Hearing the wisdom words from the mighty lake, the old leaf closed it's eyes and devoted itself to the lake as it fell off from the tree. There was happiness and a sense of content over the leaf's final moments before withering off. The leaf was glad that it spent the final moments and dedicated itself to this grateful lake!
The lake again smiled at the leaf and replied, "Oh dear leaf, I do not get angry at the boy because the boy has also spent the good times with me. He used to share the joy with me. How can I not share his sorrow then? When he throws the stones at me, I gulp them down to my bottom. Till now, I have gulped many of such stones within me. The stones which the boy throws at me are not mere stones, they are made up of his anger and he throws away his anger at me. Even the almighty lord has given me the power to absorb any huge thing thrown at me; and these are just small stones of his anger. These stones of anger which I have gulped till now, have helped me raise my water-levels to which I am present now. Not only this, the little boy's family has really worked hard to keep me clean throughout their lifetime. I owe my beauty to them. All the animals and birds visit me only because I am this beautiful and provide pure water to them. But I may like to tell you that I do not gulp down everything that is thrown onto me. The leaves and the flowers which fall down the trees keep floating over me and I do not try to sink them. I am thankful to them as they multiply my beauty. How can I complain about those who have been with me and helped me through my life? I am grateful to all of you."
Hearing the wisdom words from the mighty lake, the old leaf closed it's eyes and devoted itself to the lake as it fell off from the tree. There was happiness and a sense of content over the leaf's final moments before withering off. The leaf was glad that it spent the final moments and dedicated itself to this grateful lake!
- The End
Story written and conceptualized by Siddhesh Lakhan © 2013
Thursday, 17 January 2013
LEARN TO PRIORITIZE!
Most of the days, our life runs smooth; considering the fact that we balance our lives in the right manner. However, on certain days, no matter how hard we try, things just seem to get burdened over us. In such situations, most of us tend to panic and behave absurdly to ourselves as well as others around. People who know you, your family, your friends and your colleagues are unaware and unable to figure out what exactly is wrong with us! We don't mean to act in that way at that particular moment of time, but as we have lost control over our minds we lose the touch of reality in our behavior. We try and remove out our frustration to the people and things around, not knowing, the after-results. By the time, we gain back our control, some of our dear ones have already formed a perception about us in the wrong way. Though, however hard you try to explain or say sorry, the fact is that you have behaved in a harsh way with them at the wrong time.
The point here is that, we don't really are aware of ourselves. We have lost the touch with reality so much that we forget who we are and what we do. The materialistic world always has it's power of attracting our minds onto it. So how do we get over all this? How do we establish stability in our lives? The answer lies within us, and the solution is to PRIORITIZE!
Prioritize your tasks, prioritize your routine, prioritize according to the urgency, prioritize your people etc. I can go on and on over this as different people have different priorities. No one can come to a common set of priorities. And why should he? We all have our right to choose and live the life our own way! Now the next question you will ask me is "Prioritizing is fruitful only when we know about the upcoming events, but what if the events suddenly turn up into our lives and we have no time to prioritize?". Well, I would say, again the answer to this also lies to your own self. See, the things or people who turn up into your life are a result of your own actions. Nothing comes into your life without you being involved into it, directly or indirectly. So, better keep a check on your actions. And for keeping a check on your actions, you must first keep a check on your thoughts, because THOUGHTS PROVOKE ACTIONS!
Ending on this note, I would wish you all to be kind to your own self. Only then, you can be kind to others. Prioritizing is an individual task, which depends on your thoughts; and the result of which will influence your life in the future!
Friday, 31 August 2012
A bug's life!
This picture was clicked by me few months ago outside my balcony. This multicolored bug was spotted resting on the grill. Seemed as if it was wondering how on earth did it ever reach there! I just couldn't stop myself from capturing this unique bug i found. I don't own any SLR, but sure a simple digital camera does the needful.
As i captured the bug into my lens, the bug stared at me and spoke, "Hey dude! Watching a bug for the first time? Listen, i don't have much time. I can fly away any moment. The only belief that makes me sit here still is that i see you as a harmless guy, so i am sure you won't harm me. That's the reason i let you click a picture of me. But before i flee from here, i would like to say that you humans would never understand what a bug's life is. It's much more wonderful and simpler than you humans could ever dare to imagine. What fascinates me more is you people have progressed technologically but it's a shame to say that humans have shred their humanity and are being insane towards our own nature which was earlier shared by all of us equally. You guys think you rule this world? Quite to the surprise, you have even achieved this feat with the power of technology. But take my words, it won't last long. Not very long! The nature will show it's wrath upon you. And the consequences have to be faced by not humans alone, but all other innocent creatures. What you humans thinks is yours, was of somebody else earlier and will be of some other in the future. Don't be content with the fake happiness considering all of it as yours. Learn to share as we do. Learn to live as we live. The world would then be a better place to live in. Oh! And thanks for the click. Do publish it in some magazine."
And it flew away instantly as i focused away from him, still pondering on the thoughts. The bug really explained a great deal of life within those few seconds. It was then i decided that i would pen down his words in my article when i post this photo of him. The bug's really beautiful! Ain't he?
Tuesday, 28 August 2012
The path towards the light
This picture was captured by me last year when i had visited one of the holiday homes at a hill station. The picture clearly demonstrates a path towards the light. We all walk various paths throughout our lives, we conquer mountains, but most of the times we miss out on our own path - our own life! No matter the time, no matter the situation, we all must occasionally give time to ourselves. It helps in giving us the inner peace. We are then able to win more complex challenges with a free mind, rather than a filled-up mind. Free your mind by giving time to yourself. Free yourself to the nature, and it's love.
The transition of the world to selfishness
Today, after completing most of my studies, i came to a conclusion that there is no dearth of jobs in this world. The word "recession" is being openly used by companies to utilize raw talent at cheap rates. The MBA's which were considered to be of prestige and value are now being compared to graduates or even high-school pass-outs for that matter. The reason for this decline in the MBA degree is simple. Government, which is wanting to earn more profits is allowing a large number of institutes to open up their courses and award MBA degrees. Due to the recent rise in the number of institutes the value and level of MBA education has been declining. The quality is lost. MBA is seen as a profit-making tool for organizations. The victims are none other than a few thousands of deserving students!
Who is to be blamed? Country? Government? Organizations? Institutes? or is it us? And the case is not just with the MBA's - it's the same with Engineers, Scientists etc. The manufacturing power of India is declining so rapidly. Most of our economy is now governed by the service sector. We only import and sell. But why not export? or Produce and sell? We have the manpower. We have the resources. We have the planning. We are self-sufficient. So where exactly do we go wrong?
We only go wrong at our thinking. We always tend to think about our profits/benefits/advantages before implementing any plan. We never focus on the long term perspective, we only focus on short term profits. We have grown mentally ill. We only depend upon technologies to give us solutions. But we forgot that technologies were invented just to assist us in our work activities. Where are our thinking hats? Why do we depend on other companies/countries to assist us in our activities?
Awaken yourself. Rise above your boundaries. See beyond your horizon. Only then you will see the world. And you can proudly talk to your death and say, "I have lived my life, now i want to enjoy this journey; you can take me any day"
Tuesday, 5 June 2012
Raise above your emotions - 2
In the first part, i have already explained what are emotions, how do they develop, and what are the consequences. Now i would quickly like to get to the basics. I hope it will give you the clear idea as to how emotions rule in our life.
Now, talking about emotions, first let us bifurcate the emotional levels according to the ages:
Child - 00 - 12 years
Playful - 13 - 25 years
Mature - 26 - 40 years
Mentor - 40 - lifetime
For a child, most of the emotions are associated with the parents, as the parents are the major caretakers of the child throughout this journey. Parents look after every need of their child and fulfill the most essential ones. In return, child becomes more and more attached and dependent on the parents for his every need. He is angry on the parent for not fulfilling his desires, also, he is happy when his desires are fulfilled by his parents.
In the playful age, the child is now raised just above the dependent level. He starts exploring the surrounding more. He makes new contacts. Attachment with parents is a little less than it was in the child age. There are hormonal changes which develops many more feelings and desires within the person. He finds love. And with love, the related thousand and one sub-emotions. Love, anger, jealousy, care, respect etc start developing through the various experiences the person has over a period of time. Most the time, the person is occupied within himself. This stage can also be called as self-exploratory stage.
In the mature age, the playful nature of the person starts diminishing. The person starts behaving in a responsible manner. He becomes aware about his life and priorities. He takes decision about how he has to live his own life. This is the stage where the person develops his career and work based on the decisions taken by him. The most important phase of his life comes when he has to take decision about expanding his family. Then comes the marriage and kids. And thus, the added responsibilities. He has to deal not only with his work and career, but also his marriage-partner, kids and the entire family. It is very important how a person manages his work-life balance in this stage.
In the mentor age, the mature person is now experienced with most of the worldly experiences. Now, this is the stage where the person mentors, his children and future generation about the experiences about this world. He trains them and guides them to follow lifestyle that would result in their happiness. This is the stage where the person does not care about acquiring but believes only in giving. It can also be termed as self-realization stage.
These were the different behavior and emotional patterns that a person displays over his lifetime. It is very important for us to realize our roles and duties in this life and do our best to achieve them to fulfill the reason for sheer existence of our life.
Now, talking about emotions, first let us bifurcate the emotional levels according to the ages:
Child - 00 - 12 years
Playful - 13 - 25 years
Mature - 26 - 40 years
Mentor - 40 - lifetime
For a child, most of the emotions are associated with the parents, as the parents are the major caretakers of the child throughout this journey. Parents look after every need of their child and fulfill the most essential ones. In return, child becomes more and more attached and dependent on the parents for his every need. He is angry on the parent for not fulfilling his desires, also, he is happy when his desires are fulfilled by his parents.
In the playful age, the child is now raised just above the dependent level. He starts exploring the surrounding more. He makes new contacts. Attachment with parents is a little less than it was in the child age. There are hormonal changes which develops many more feelings and desires within the person. He finds love. And with love, the related thousand and one sub-emotions. Love, anger, jealousy, care, respect etc start developing through the various experiences the person has over a period of time. Most the time, the person is occupied within himself. This stage can also be called as self-exploratory stage.
In the mature age, the playful nature of the person starts diminishing. The person starts behaving in a responsible manner. He becomes aware about his life and priorities. He takes decision about how he has to live his own life. This is the stage where the person develops his career and work based on the decisions taken by him. The most important phase of his life comes when he has to take decision about expanding his family. Then comes the marriage and kids. And thus, the added responsibilities. He has to deal not only with his work and career, but also his marriage-partner, kids and the entire family. It is very important how a person manages his work-life balance in this stage.
In the mentor age, the mature person is now experienced with most of the worldly experiences. Now, this is the stage where the person mentors, his children and future generation about the experiences about this world. He trains them and guides them to follow lifestyle that would result in their happiness. This is the stage where the person does not care about acquiring but believes only in giving. It can also be termed as self-realization stage.
These were the different behavior and emotional patterns that a person displays over his lifetime. It is very important for us to realize our roles and duties in this life and do our best to achieve them to fulfill the reason for sheer existence of our life.
Tuesday, 8 May 2012
Raise above your emotions - 1
EMOTIONS ! We all have it within us. And believe me or not, these "emotions" control most of our daily activities. Whatever actions we perform, are influenced greatly by the emotions within us. We develop these emotions over a period of time. The emotions perceived by an individual are different for different individuals. Rarely, we find any common emotions attached with two different persons. This is due to the individual differences. The different experiences by each individual are responsible for the difference in emotional levels. Consider an example of watching a movie. We all have our own choices when watching a movie (like action, adventure, romantic, comedy, drama etc). We tend to get attached to different genres depending on our emotions. A particular movie or a particular scene in a movie, may have pleasant or averse effects depending on the emotions present within us related to that particular scene or movie. We develop the emotions right from our childhood where we learn about things, develop ideas, thoughts etc. Such ideas and thoughts become instilled in our sub-conscious mind over a period of time due to repetitive exposure of such thoughts and beliefs.
Now if something happens which contradicts our thoughts, ideas and beliefs; then we tend to get sad and maybe even cry to show a sign of displeasure. Or vice-versa, if something turns out to be in exact fashion of our thoughts and which fulfills our expectations, then we tend to become happy. We should try that emotions should not rule our decisions in life. Many a times, emotions stand in the way of our success. Therefore, decisions need to be taken based on pure logic and benefit of all. However, in this materialistic world, humans tend to get attached with emotions, and there is no escape for a normal human to escape the clutches of emotions. However, we can certainly try to control them and raise above our emotional level.
Now if something happens which contradicts our thoughts, ideas and beliefs; then we tend to get sad and maybe even cry to show a sign of displeasure. Or vice-versa, if something turns out to be in exact fashion of our thoughts and which fulfills our expectations, then we tend to become happy. We should try that emotions should not rule our decisions in life. Many a times, emotions stand in the way of our success. Therefore, decisions need to be taken based on pure logic and benefit of all. However, in this materialistic world, humans tend to get attached with emotions, and there is no escape for a normal human to escape the clutches of emotions. However, we can certainly try to control them and raise above our emotional level.
Friday, 4 May 2012
The falling leaves
"Falling leaves" usually reminds us of the autumn. The leaves of the trees start shedding in this season and the roads are covered with leaves all over. This scene looks beautiful to many. It makes up for a romantic weather. These were the leaves which were once hanging on to the branches of the tree. Due to withering, they fall off.
Now, you will be surprised at this striking similarity between the shedding of leaves and a person quitting his bad habits. Consider a human. He has his own habits of doing things. Over a period of time, he acquires a learning experience from his surrounding. In this learning phase, he inculcates various habits within himself. Most of the habits form the routine, whereas few habits tend to change randomly. These are timely and temporary. Such temporary habits - i call them as "tembits" - are influenced by the people and environment surrounding us. We humans have this ability of adapting to various cultures and lifestyles. This unknowingly happens with us. Don't agree? Well, consider yourself. Look where you stand at present. Analyze your environment, people surrounding you, and the situations you face. You are presently at a point where you were directed with the factors i mentioned - Environment, People and Situations. These factors were a major reason for you to develop the tembits. However, as you move further and there is a change in your environment or you change the group of people you interact with or there is a change in the situations you face; this is the time when you drop your tembits or in other words, "shed your leaves". It is continuous but a prolonged process. You shed your leaves but also you know that you will be bearing new leaves soon enough.
Now, you will be surprised at this striking similarity between the shedding of leaves and a person quitting his bad habits. Consider a human. He has his own habits of doing things. Over a period of time, he acquires a learning experience from his surrounding. In this learning phase, he inculcates various habits within himself. Most of the habits form the routine, whereas few habits tend to change randomly. These are timely and temporary. Such temporary habits - i call them as "tembits" - are influenced by the people and environment surrounding us. We humans have this ability of adapting to various cultures and lifestyles. This unknowingly happens with us. Don't agree? Well, consider yourself. Look where you stand at present. Analyze your environment, people surrounding you, and the situations you face. You are presently at a point where you were directed with the factors i mentioned - Environment, People and Situations. These factors were a major reason for you to develop the tembits. However, as you move further and there is a change in your environment or you change the group of people you interact with or there is a change in the situations you face; this is the time when you drop your tembits or in other words, "shed your leaves". It is continuous but a prolonged process. You shed your leaves but also you know that you will be bearing new leaves soon enough.
Wednesday, 2 May 2012
The karmic cycle !
The "karmic" cycle, or in other words, the cycle of our actions. The "karma" in Hindu mythology, refers to the actions we perform - be it good or bad. It is said that whatever we get in our lives is purely based on our previous actions performed. We all must be aware of the famous proverb from our childhood - "As you sow, so shall you reap". That's exactly what i want to explain here.
How many times in our lives have we been dejected for the wrong happenings in our lives? How many times did we think that "WHY ME"? Many times. At-least for a normal human being on this planet earth. We may have been good to people recently and still the people have been grunting at us. Similarly, some people who have been really bad in their ways may escape getting good results in their lives. So what's wrong in us behaving in the same bad manner? Why not become bad as others? But we fail to recognize that the results we are getting may not necessarily be the fruits of our recent deeds. It may be related to a distant past where we may have been rude to others. Also, not necessarily, the people who have been bad and getting good results, will continue getting good results throughout their lives. Once the balance of good and bad karma destabilizes, the fate turns over you. You have to face the harshness if you have been harsh towards others. Similarly, you will be blessed with the goodness if you have been good with others. To explain it simple natural terms, when we were born in this world, we did not have any energy of our own. Whatever energy we possess is what we have got from this world, the nature around us. Obviously, the actions we perform are the result of the energy within us. Ultimately, no matter how much ever energy we possess, we have to return it back to this world. Everyone gets a chance in their lives to take a decision. A decision that will forever change their lives. Such decisions are usually taken by us considering our selfishness, to be frank. And seriously, there is no harm to be selfish in this cruel world. But also, care should be taken that our selfishness does not lead to the disruption in other people's lives. The decision we take should be in best regards to ourselves as well as others.
The cycle of karma - usually revolves around the "good" and the "bad". However, if i try to explain these things in details, many people would be confused. The reason behind this is that different people have different perception towards things. Like, what may be "good" to some might be "bad" to others, and vice-versa. Also, with this, fast changing world, the definition of "good" and "bad" has been changing rapidly.
To conclude, all i can say is "Good begets good. Bad begets bad." The fruits of our actions will be realized by us sometime in our lives, if not presently, maybe later in our lives, if not later in this life, maybe next life! But the cycle of karma continues and it won't stop for you, all what you can do is control your actions to cycle your life.
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