Tuesday, 5 June 2012

Raise above your emotions - 2

In the first part, i have already explained what are emotions, how do they develop, and what are the consequences. Now i would quickly like to get to the basics. I hope it will give you the clear idea as to how emotions rule in our life.

Now, talking about emotions, first let us bifurcate the emotional levels according to the ages:

Child     -    00 - 12 years
Playful   -    13 - 25 years
Mature  -    26 - 40 years
Mentor  -    40 - lifetime



For a child, most of the emotions are associated with the parents, as the parents  are the major caretakers of the child throughout this journey. Parents look after every need of their child and fulfill the most essential ones. In return, child becomes more and more attached and dependent on the parents for his every need. He is angry on the parent for not fulfilling his desires, also, he is happy when his desires are fulfilled by his parents.

In the playful age, the child is now raised just above the dependent level. He starts exploring the surrounding more. He makes new contacts. Attachment with parents is a little less than it was in the child age. There are hormonal changes which develops many more feelings and desires within the person. He finds love. And with love, the related thousand and one sub-emotions. Love, anger, jealousy, care, respect etc start developing through the various experiences the person has over a period of time. Most the time, the person is occupied within himself. This stage can also be called as self-exploratory stage.

In the mature age, the playful nature of the person starts diminishing. The person starts behaving in a responsible manner. He becomes aware about his life and priorities. He takes decision about how he has to live his own life. This is the stage where the person develops his career and work based on the decisions taken by him. The most important phase of his life comes when he has to take decision about expanding his family. Then comes the marriage and kids. And thus, the added responsibilities. He has to deal not only with his work and career, but also his marriage-partner, kids and the entire family. It is very important how a person manages his work-life balance in this stage.

In the mentor age, the mature person is now experienced with most of the worldly experiences. Now, this is the stage where the person mentors, his children and future generation about the experiences about this world. He trains them and guides them to follow lifestyle that would result in their happiness. This is the stage where the person does not care about acquiring but believes only in giving. It can also be termed as self-realization stage.

These were the different behavior and emotional patterns that a person displays over his lifetime. It is very important for us to realize our roles and duties in this life and do our best to achieve them to fulfill the reason for sheer existence of our life.